Saturday, December 11, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Reflections on Pickle Sex Among Other Things...
I'm feeling sort of introspective today and felt like writing stuff out. Here are my reflections on certain shiz:
On boredom...
- Boredom is an illusion. If you're bored, make something up on the spot that's interesting to you.
For example, the other day at work, I had no work to do and I was feeling very bored. I'd caught up on all the blogs for the day, and spent some extensive time playing around with Google Analytics. Then, I looked at my coffee mug. The milk froth was all crusty on the inside of the mug, so I thought it'd be fun to scratch designs into the dried crusty froth residue. This kept me entertained for about one minute. While not very long, it made for one minute less of boredom in my workday.
Another way to cure boredom at work: chew loudly and drink your coffee with a straw while making sucking sounds. This will also get you attention if you're craving some. I've learned that I much prefer to work with others in a group, so I recommend this for times when you're stuck in a cubicle.
Lastly, to fight workplace boredom, it's always fun to arrange your desk supplies (or food, see below for a picture of sexy pickles) into sexy poses.
On love...
- I have yet to feel completely loved, safe and secure in any relationship outside of that with my - now dead, r.i.p. Honey - dog, and God.
- Vulnerability sucks the big one.
P.S.- Shipping is free all month on my Etsy shop.
On boredom...
- Boredom is an illusion. If you're bored, make something up on the spot that's interesting to you.
For example, the other day at work, I had no work to do and I was feeling very bored. I'd caught up on all the blogs for the day, and spent some extensive time playing around with Google Analytics. Then, I looked at my coffee mug. The milk froth was all crusty on the inside of the mug, so I thought it'd be fun to scratch designs into the dried crusty froth residue. This kept me entertained for about one minute. While not very long, it made for one minute less of boredom in my workday.
Another way to cure boredom at work: chew loudly and drink your coffee with a straw while making sucking sounds. This will also get you attention if you're craving some. I've learned that I much prefer to work with others in a group, so I recommend this for times when you're stuck in a cubicle.
Lastly, to fight workplace boredom, it's always fun to arrange your desk supplies (or food, see below for a picture of sexy pickles) into sexy poses.
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| I call this one, "Pickles Making Luuuurve". |
On love...
- I have yet to feel completely loved, safe and secure in any relationship outside of that with my - now dead, r.i.p. Honey - dog, and God.
- Vulnerability sucks the big one.
P.S.- Shipping is free all month on my Etsy shop.
Saturday, December 4, 2010
Friday, December 3, 2010
New Items Listed! Free Shipping Dec 3-5!
Thursday, December 2, 2010
PUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUSH!
Sometimes I have to battle with my craft. Lately, I've been a battlin' and battlin' hard to push through the crafter's block I've been experiencing. I wonder if this is how a baby feels when it's being born? You have to squeeze your way through this tight, dark, elastic-y tunnel and fight to take your first breath in the outside world. Or maybe like the mother? I've felt like a mother lately, I just want to give birth (not real live birth, you know, figuratively speaking of course), to birth out the creations in my mind, manifest my passion into pieces of sparkly eye-candy you can hang around your neck, off your ears and on your wrists. BAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!! Gotta keep pushing and I wanna make it. I WILL DO this!
Are we not our own worst obstacle? Yes, I think we are.
Are we not our own worst obstacle? Yes, I think we are.
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
new online store
Gooood morning everyone and happy day before Thanskgiving!
A good friend of mine recently shared with me about BigCartel.com. The site is similar to Etsy.com in that it offers artists an easier way to sell and market their creations online. I feel that a lot gets lost in the mix on Etsy simply because the website is so big and there are so many vendors. If you don't post new items constantly, your shop gets. lost further and further down in the search results. The sheer volume of merch on there is massive. I want to try something new and so I'm going to be opening a new online shop, stay tuned! Coming verrrrry soon!
A good friend of mine recently shared with me about BigCartel.com. The site is similar to Etsy.com in that it offers artists an easier way to sell and market their creations online. I feel that a lot gets lost in the mix on Etsy simply because the website is so big and there are so many vendors. If you don't post new items constantly, your shop gets. lost further and further down in the search results. The sheer volume of merch on there is massive. I want to try something new and so I'm going to be opening a new online shop, stay tuned! Coming verrrrry soon!
Monday, October 25, 2010
Be You, Stay True
This is hard for me to write about. I'm not always the greatest at writing out or explaining my feelings. If this blog post seems like it's only scratching the surface or kind of elementary in dealing with this subject, I apologize, but I'm going to try and write it out the best that I can. This post is for both women and men, but I think it's something that more women than men deal with.
This has been on my mind lately, an ongoing theme playing in my life and something I feel the need to write about. Sometimes things happen in our lives that make it impossible to ignore the fact that we need to learn something.
I feel that as women we are taught to "be nice". This starts out from when we're little girls. I've experienced that being "nice" no matter what happens though, can be detrimental too. I'm tired of being nice. I've been nice all my life. When I was bullied in grade school, I'd still be nice to the mean kids and try to make them like me. In a past relationship, in choosing to "be nice" regardless of how horribly the person treated me, I completely lost who I was for a few years, the ground fell out beneath me, I hit rock bottom and I hit it hard on many occasions before I got the strength to stand up for my self-worth - it was a dark dark time. Thank God for my friends and family though, they never gave up on me and their love and persistence in my life helped me emerge a butterfly, they got me to see the light on the other side of the tunnel. We've all been there in some way or other at one point in our lives.
Now, not all relationships are either healthy or extremely abusive, I don't believe things are that black and white. That said, I think it's important to check in with yourself when you're in a relationship to make sure the relationship you're in is healthy, and most importantly, healthy for you. Because who needs more crap in their lives right? Life is already tough enough without being with someone who makes things harder.
Does the person you're with...
- frequently question your sincerity?
- make you feel like you have to continually prove to them that you really care?
- shut you out emotionally?
- have very defined views about the roles men and women should play in a relationship?
- frequently gets upset (overtly or covertly) and you do not know what has happened to cause it?
- criticize things about you that nobody else ever has? (example: "It's annoying when you're so positive all the time" or they get upset that what upsets them does not upset you --> this is called Projection:
"Projection is the misattribution of a person’s undesired thoughts, feelings or impulses onto another person who does not have those thoughts, feelings or impulses. Projection is used especially when the thoughts are considered unacceptable for the person to express, or they feel completely ill at ease with having them. For example, a spouse may be angry at their significant other for not listening, when in fact it is the angry spouse who does not listen. Projection is often the result of a lack of insight and acknowledgement of one’s own motivations and feelings.")
- ignore you? not include you in things?
- call the shots on when you're going to spend time together?
Do you find yourself...
- always agreeing with them to avoid conflict?
- not sharing your feelings/thoughts for fear of them being misunderstood or taken personally?
- making excuses for their bahaviour when it makes you uncomfortable or feel badly about something?
- thinking, "If I just did this differently..." or "Maybe if I do this it will finally show/prove to them how much I care for them"?
I know these lists just touch the tip of the iceberg on all this stuff, but if you experience many of these things above, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. I know myself that it's sometimes hard to articulate what and why you feel bad, but if in your gut, it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't. Please please please, don't suck up to someone who doesn't treat you well, ignores you, or shows any of the signs above! Know your worth, you deserve to be with a person who loves and accepts you, encourages and builds you up, someone who is secure enough in who they are to big up the beauty inside of you.
I found this diagram online and think it sums up clearly what a healthy relationship looks like, the essential ingredients that both people need to bring to make it good.
Remember, the most important person to be nice to is yourself.
This has been on my mind lately, an ongoing theme playing in my life and something I feel the need to write about. Sometimes things happen in our lives that make it impossible to ignore the fact that we need to learn something.
I feel that as women we are taught to "be nice". This starts out from when we're little girls. I've experienced that being "nice" no matter what happens though, can be detrimental too. I'm tired of being nice. I've been nice all my life. When I was bullied in grade school, I'd still be nice to the mean kids and try to make them like me. In a past relationship, in choosing to "be nice" regardless of how horribly the person treated me, I completely lost who I was for a few years, the ground fell out beneath me, I hit rock bottom and I hit it hard on many occasions before I got the strength to stand up for my self-worth - it was a dark dark time. Thank God for my friends and family though, they never gave up on me and their love and persistence in my life helped me emerge a butterfly, they got me to see the light on the other side of the tunnel. We've all been there in some way or other at one point in our lives.
Now, not all relationships are either healthy or extremely abusive, I don't believe things are that black and white. That said, I think it's important to check in with yourself when you're in a relationship to make sure the relationship you're in is healthy, and most importantly, healthy for you. Because who needs more crap in their lives right? Life is already tough enough without being with someone who makes things harder.
Does the person you're with...
- frequently question your sincerity?
- make you feel like you have to continually prove to them that you really care?
- shut you out emotionally?
- have very defined views about the roles men and women should play in a relationship?
- frequently gets upset (overtly or covertly) and you do not know what has happened to cause it?
- criticize things about you that nobody else ever has? (example: "It's annoying when you're so positive all the time" or they get upset that what upsets them does not upset you --> this is called Projection:
"Projection is the misattribution of a person’s undesired thoughts, feelings or impulses onto another person who does not have those thoughts, feelings or impulses. Projection is used especially when the thoughts are considered unacceptable for the person to express, or they feel completely ill at ease with having them. For example, a spouse may be angry at their significant other for not listening, when in fact it is the angry spouse who does not listen. Projection is often the result of a lack of insight and acknowledgement of one’s own motivations and feelings.")
- ignore you? not include you in things?
- call the shots on when you're going to spend time together?
Do you find yourself...
- always agreeing with them to avoid conflict?
- not sharing your feelings/thoughts for fear of them being misunderstood or taken personally?
- making excuses for their bahaviour when it makes you uncomfortable or feel badly about something?
- thinking, "If I just did this differently..." or "Maybe if I do this it will finally show/prove to them how much I care for them"?
I know these lists just touch the tip of the iceberg on all this stuff, but if you experience many of these things above, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. I know myself that it's sometimes hard to articulate what and why you feel bad, but if in your gut, it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't. Please please please, don't suck up to someone who doesn't treat you well, ignores you, or shows any of the signs above! Know your worth, you deserve to be with a person who loves and accepts you, encourages and builds you up, someone who is secure enough in who they are to big up the beauty inside of you.
I found this diagram online and think it sums up clearly what a healthy relationship looks like, the essential ingredients that both people need to bring to make it good.
Remember, the most important person to be nice to is yourself.
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